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Watch the tense moment Lucille Ball tells a host to take his hands off female audience members

It was common for male hosts to kiss, hug, and touch women in the 70s. It was not common for a woman to publicly challenge them.

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Lucille Ball was a powerhouse both on screen and off.Photo credit: CBS Television (Public Domain)

According to her daughter, Lucille Ball never considered herself a feminist, but there’s no question she blazed many a trail for women. A working mother in real life, she depicted issues facing housewives with her brilliant television comedy and became the first female studio head in Hollywood. She broke glass ceilings but wasn’t particularly outspoken about women’s rights. In fact, in a 1980 interview with “People,” she said, “They can use my name for equal rights, but I don’t get out there and raise hell because I’ve been so liberated, I have nothing to squawk about.”

Ball empowered women by example—and by speaking her mind. Carol Burnett shared a story on PBS about how Ball was unhappy with a script for her new show, but women at that time didn’t raise concerns about such things. Men could express criticism and demand changes, but women simply didn’t. Ball did—and firmly—despite being non-confrontational by nature. Later she told Burnett, “Kid, that’s when they put the ‘s’ at the end of my name.”

A video has been circulating on social media showing Ball’s no-nonsense way of speaking up when she felt the need to, and people are gushing over it.


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In 1978, Ball participated in a Q & A session with UCLA theater arts students on the television program “America Alive!” The viral clip shows Ball repeatedly telling one of the hosts, David Sheehan, to take his hands off of female audience members when they were asking a question.

“Will you take your hands off, David?” she says as he introduces one young woman. “Take your hands off of her,” she says again as he places his hand on the shoulder of another. “David, would you take your hands away?” she says as he places his hands on another woman in a sparkly gold dress.

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People laughed every time, but Ball didn’t so much as crack a smile during her clear, simple, repeated “hands off” admonitions.

For 1978 especially, her advocacy for the women in the audience was extraordinary. Sheehan wasn’t touching these women in a lewd or sexual manner, but he was touching them in a way that he wouldn’t have touched a man who was asking a question. Most people wouldn’t have thought much of it at the time, but Lucille Ball immediately noted it and didn’t let it stand.

“I love that she didn’t even laugh when the room was,” shared one commenter. “She was not joking.”

“‘Take your hands off her, David,’ should be a sound AND a t-shirt,” wrote another.

“He kept trying. She kept telling him. Love her,” shared another.

“Lucille Ball always reminds me of my grandma,” offered another. “She hated to be seen as delicate, and she hated men that would touch her even more. She would say, stone-faced, ‘Get your paws off.’”

Here are a few more of the best comments:

“the audience laughed and she said ‘ain’t nothing funny.’ love her”

“This happened to me so much growing up and I noticed from very young the boys weren’t treated this way.”

“Even then she knew how the industry was I LOVE IT AND LOOOOVE LUCY SO MUCH”

A commenter on Reddit noted that Ball started her career as a chorus girl and dancer. “She knows every creepy man trick in the book”

Television and game shows from the 70s and 80s are an incredible time capsule of the culture and norms of the era. Sheehan wasn’t the only one who tended to get a little handsy.

It was common for male hosts to kiss female contestants. Richard Dawson, host of The Family Feud, was famous for it. Even our beloved Bob Barker of The Price Is Right often had women suggestively reach into his jacket to fish out their $100 bill.

There’s a casual lecherous-ness that famous men seemed to get away with easily at the time. For anyone to publicly challenge them on their behavior was absolutely shocking.

Even if Sheehan was casually touching those women out of habit and not ill intent, it’s laudable that Ball made a point of making him aware of it. Unfortunately, women are still having to deal with men touching them without being invited to, but seeing Lucille Ball’s serious face while calling it out is a good reminder that women have been fighting this battle for a long time. Good for her for using her microphone and the respect afforded her to speak up for the young women in her audience.

This article originally appeared last year.

  • Millennials sound off of the 10 ‘cringe but correct’ hills they’re willing to die on
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    Millennials sound off of the 10 ‘cringe but correct’ hills they’re willing to die on

    You can pry the side part and earnestness from our cold, dead hands.

    Kids today don’t use words like “lame” to let you know when something’s uncool. No, no, no. Instead, they’ll say, “That’s so cringe.” Or more likely, they’ll type it as a comment on TikTok, because let’s face it, that’s where most conversations happen nowadays.

    But you know what? One of the most incredible things about getting older is that you care less and less about what younger folks consider cringey.

    Just take it from millennials, who have notoriously been on the receiving end of condemnation from every generation—be it the Gen Xers and baby boomers calling them entitled weaklings, or Gen Zers making fun of their side parts. Now Gen Y is all grown up, baby, and that means we don’t really care what anyone thinks! It also means that in our old age, certain beliefs are bound to just stick, even if they do become the next wave of “get off my lawn!”

    Recently, millennials on Reddit were encouraged to “unite globally on these petty issues” by listing the silliest “cringe but correct” practices of their generation that were worth maintaining, no matter how often they’re ridiculed:

    LOLS. They’re here to stay

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    “I will forever maintain that using ‘LOL’ for anything that is not actually funny is an essential form of emotional regulation. The LOL isn’t a laugh; it’s a silent scream. It means, ‘I acknowledge this, I’m slightly annoyed, but I am responding with a pleasant, non-threatening digital sigh.’ It is the most valuable punctuation mark we have, perfectly capturing nuanced, passive-aggressive resignation.”

    Other millennials were inclined to agree…

    “lol is the most dynamic word/acronym that we have added to humanity. Way underrated lol”

    “Millennials use ‘lol’ the way they used to use ‘stop’ in telegrams lol”

    So is the “Millennial Pause.”

    “The Millennial Pause is functionally useful, since it allows the viewer to orient to the video before you start talking. Seriously, how many videos have you had pop up that start talking before your brain says ‘oh, this guy is saying something,’ and you miss the first sentence?”

    Millennials are going to wholeheartedly like things, and you can’t stop them.

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    This might not be a millennial-specific thing, but rather a phenomenon that occurs as you get older and realize that the world is a vast and complex place, where you can almost always find a tribe of similarly impassioned people. Still, we’re claiming it.

    “Unabashedly enjoying things and not being paralyzed by fear of being cringe.”

    “My Z nieces try to bully me for enjoying things/being earnest, and it doesn’t work. I enjoy doing things I enjoy, and also say/emote what I am thinking/feeling without worrying about if I’m being cool or detached or ironic enough. I survived millennial middle school. You can pry my hard-won, unabashed sense of self from my cold, dead hands.”

    “IT’S NICE TO LIKE THINGS! Seriously, surround yourself with people who won’t judge you for authentically liking the things you like. Anyone else doesn’t matter. They’ll at some point. We all did.”

    Not succumbing to fashion trends

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    Keep your coquette looks and insert literally any word-core. We don’t need or want it.

    “My side part stays.”

    (Apparently, side parts are cool again anyway. Further reason to just stick to what feels right—it will become in vogue again eventually.)

    “I’ve spent a lifetime cultivating a wardrobe of flannels, jeans, and boots, I ain’t changing now.”

    “You can pry my ankle and no-show socks off my cold, dead feet; there’s no way in hell I’m going to go rocking a crew-sock farmer’s tan just because you dumbass kids insist on dressing like my grandpa going golfing.”

    “Once Gen Z guys start discovering their leg hair awkwardly disappears at the exact height they pull their tube socks up to they’ll have realized their mistake.”

    “Flared leggings aren’t a thing. If they have a flare they aren’t leggings. Yoga pants they are yoga pants and will always be yoga pants.”

    “I will never give up comfort camisoles. If I ever have only one layer on, I have been replaced by a pod person.”

    Not everything has to be high tech…

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    “Stating your number when leaving a voicemail. Double points if you do it at the beginning and again at the end.”

    “Big decisions and purchases are on big screens. Not my phone. How else am I going to open 50 different tabs for reviews and price comparisons?”

    “Until one streaming service has every movie or show made and is readily available at all times, I will continue to collect and keep DVDs/Blu Rays of movies and shows I want to watch.”

    “Not everything needs to be smart. I don’t need a smart windshield, smart glasses, a smart watch…I have a phone and a tv. That covers my needs.”

    “The most useful tools ever created do not require an internet connection or a battery.”

    “Paper menus are the correct way to order food when dining in. I am not scanning a QR code.”

    …including cars

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    Cars don't need to be computers. They can just be cars. media4.giphy.com

    “Screens in cars are ugly give me knobs and buttons.”

    “They also seem more dangerous! Like, I should be able to feel around. If I have to look then My eyes aren’t on the road!”

    “Better yet, give me the same exact layout across all makes/models for things like headlights and wipers. Nothing gets me frazzled like not knowing how to turn on basic safety functions because I had to use our fleet vehicle at work, or borrow someone’s car.”

    “Cars peaked in the mid 90s to mid 00s. Now they’re all ginormous, look the same, everything is an SUV with too many screens and sensors and computers to cost a fortune when they break. Power windows were the most technology needed. We used to have fun colors, makers experimented with new and weird body styles. I miss seeing station wagons everywhere.”

    On that note, IRL purchases > online

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    “I refuse to buy everything online. Sometimes, you need the in-person store experience, so you can see how stuff actually looks and feels. I don’t want a nice looking but scratchy af blanket or the painting that looked a different color online. I definitely don’t want to wait weeks while I return it and get a refund to order another elsewhere and potentially have the same thing happen again. I just want to go to the store, buy it, and be done with it already.”

    “Video rental stores are cool and good. Sure Netflix, Hulu, whatever HBO’s service has been renamed to this week are more convenient but the simple joy of convincing my parents I needed to rent Richie Rich again is peak childhood.”

    We WILL be using what we learned in grammar school. Unironically. Thanks so much.

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    “I will murder anyone who comes for my Oxford comma.”

    “Idc what the cool kids are doing these days I am using capital letters.”

    We still believe in dancing like nobody’s watching

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    “I’m not doing that corny, lackadaisical, give them nothing dance that Gen Z does on TikTok to make themselves look like they are cool because they don’t care enough, I’m shaking my ass despite me never really learning how to. I don’t know why Gen Z is so scared of humiliation, but I’m glad that was never us.”

    “I’m gonna put my hands in the air when I dance. Especially at a concert. Going to concerts where people’s hands are only in the air when they are holding their phones is crazy to me!!”

    Finally, certain nostalgic bits of pop culture will have a forever home in our hearts

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    Sailor Moon was THE icon of our generation. Period. media4.giphy.com

    “The OG Sailor Moon intro had no business being that catchy. It hits different.”

    “‘Appointment’ television was more fun. Getting a good cliffhanger and having a week to talk about it with your friends before the next episode and you didn’t have to deal with some jackass who has no life and binged the whole thing on 2x speed the second it was released. Waiting until September, when all the new shows and seasons would premiere. Fewer weird multi-year delays between seasons.”

    There you have it. Go forth, millennials, and be your cringiest, most unabashed selves. Because no matter what generation you hail from, you only live once. Or YOLO, as we like to say.

  • Ethan Hawke puts the ‘Who’s your favorite Beatle?’ debate to bed forever in passionate exchange
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    One of the biggest debates over the last century of popular music is “Who is your favorite Beatle?” This began in 1962, when the Fab Four had their first big hits in England, and young girls wore badges featuring photos of John Lennon, Paul McCartney, George Harrison, or Ringo Starr, proudly proclaiming their favorite.

    Who you choose as your favorite says a lot about you. If you liked Paul, you’re like the cute one who you could take home to your mother. John’s fans enjoyed a guy with a bit more edge and a sharp sense of humor. George’s admirers loved “the quiet one” for being a bit mysterious, but when he came out of his shell, he was just as charming and funny as the rest. And what’s not to love about Ringo, the affable life of the party, who was the best actor in the group?

    Ethan Hawke on The Beatles

    However, actor and Beatle fanatic Ethan Hawke believes that there is only one correct answer to “Who’s your favorite Beatle,” and that is none of them. He shared his passionate opinion with Kareem Rahma on his wildly popular SubwayTakes social media series.

    Using a microphone clipped to a New York City MetroCard, Hawke laid out his hot take on The Beatles.

    “The magic of the Beatles. The reason why you care about John Lennon. The reason why I care about John Lennon is cause of the chemistry. It’s the combination that created the greatest rock band in the history of the world. It is undeniable that what they did together is they were the sum of all parts. And to say I have a favorite Beatle, it’s like saying I have a favorite ventricle of my heart,” Hawke says.

    He then explained their unique chemistry as if they were four guys hanging out in a club. “Who makes the party happen? Ringo Starr. Here’s the problem. If you’re just hanging with Ringo, somebody please have a substantive conversation,” Hawke continues. “Somebody’s gotta say, hey, guys, why were we born? Why do we have to die? And that’s where George comes in. And somebody’s gotta take the piss out of George, who’s just as smart as him. That’s where Lennon comes in. And Lennon starts hogging the conversation. And then you got Paul. Paul’s like, ‘Hey, man, why don’t we play some music?’”

    Hawke shared a similar opinion when he created a mixed CD of music by The Beatles’ members after the break-up for his daughter’s birthday. In the liner notes, he explained why, even though they were no longer in the same band, their solo hits complemented each other perfectly.

    “There’s this thing that happens when you listen to too much of the solo stuff separately—too much Lennon: suddenly there’s a little too much self-involvement in the room; too much Paul and it can become sentimental—let’s face it, borderline goofy; too much George: I mean, we all have our spiritual side but it’s only interesting for about six minutes, ya know? Ringo: He’s funny, irreverent, and cool, but he can’t sing—he had a bunch of hits in the ’70s (even more than Lennon), but you aren’t gonna go home and crank up a Ringo Starr album start to finish, you’re just not gonna do that. When you mix up their work, though, when you put them side by side and let them flow—they elevate each other, and you start to hear it: T H E B E A T L E S,” Hawke wrote.

    The Beatles’ incredible music never seems to fade away; it is passed down from generation to generation because it possesses a timeless quality that touches people as deeply now as it did in the 1960s. The band’s story feels just as important as that of four young men from a gloomy port town in post-war England, who took inspiration from rockers across the pond and created their own sound that transcended that of their idols. The Beatles remain intriguing figures because, despite being incredibly talented and charismatic individuals, they relied on one another to create something truly transcendent.

  • Mariah Carey secretly made a grunge album in 1995. Now she’s finally sharing it.
    Mariah Carey secretly made a grunge album in 1995. Now she's finally sharing it.

    It’s not uncommon for famous singers to create tracks, even entire albums, under a fake name. Taylor Swift as Nils Sjöberg, Paul McCartney as Bernard Webb, Harry Styles as Mick Greenberg. Prince even racked up a collection of songwriter pseudonyms—including Joey Coco, Alexander Nevermind, and Jamie Starr. It’s often a chance to branch out creatively without any restrictions their current brand image might inflict.

    For Mariah Carey, that alias was a “angry, angsty, and messy” grunge singer, aptly named “Chick.”

    The year was 1995, during the height of Carey’s fame as an R&B/soul artist. She was recording Daydream, her fifth studio album, which featured tried-and-true hits like “Fantasy,” “One Sweet Day,” and “Always Be My Baby.”

    Little did anyone know, but Chick was also recording an album at that time, titled Someone’s Ugly Daughter. Usually after the stroke of midnight, after recording of Daydream had ended, and going as late as six in the morning.

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    The coveru00a0for Daydream, Carey's 1995 album. Wikimedia

    Record label executives, concerned it would damage Carey’s image (a bit of a repetitive bane throughout her career), refused the album be released…at least, they wouldn’t allow it to be released under Carey’s actual name.

    And thus, Chick’s one and only album made its clandestine way into the world, and it became something of a secret legend among hardcore fans, especially those who read Carey’s 2020 memoir, The Meaning of Mariah Carey, where the singer first shared about it.

    You even catch a glimpse of Chick’s dark haired, goth girl attributes in Carey’s “Heartbreaker” music video, thanks to Bianca—the key villainess in the story, who Carey plays, alongside herself.

    Fast forward to now, and talk of this long-lost grunge persona has made the airwaves again. As part of Apple Music’s new live show Flowers, Carey sat down with fellow artist SZA and shared gratitude for Someone’s Ugly Daughter allowing her to “feel free when I wasn’t free yet in my life.”

    A copy of the album even made its way to Carey’s hands, where she discussed the smudged lipstick, dead cockroach, and kiss print that made up the cover (all her ideas). Gotta admit, she nailed the grunge aesthetic pretty well. SZA even convinced Carey to play two tracks from the release—“Hermit” and “Love Is A Scam”—which you can hear below.

    “This would have scored so many movies in the 2000s,” one fan wrote.

    Another echoed, “this would have been fire on the Clueless soundtrack.”

    Then, on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon, we heard a snippet of another song, “Prom Queen.” Carey also got to share how making that album gave her a chance to “rebel” and get out “what was in her head.”

    This is not only a really cool thing to learn about an artist we all easily recognize, but a great reminder to always, no matter what “big” thing we’re working on in life, have something we’re doing that’s purely for ourselves—whether we have record labels to contend with or not.

    By the way, you can find the full Someone’s Ugly Daughter album on YouTube and Spotify.

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